The Danger in Being a YES Man or Woman, with Fiona Dilston
Hello, and welcome back to this fascinating series with Fiona Dilston, all about learning to say NO to others so you can say YES to what you want and need.
There is significant danger involved with being a YES man or woman. There might not be imminent physical danger. However, when you say YES to everyone but yourself, you risk your mental, physical and emotional health. You also put the world at risk—because you’re ultimately making yourself unavailable. As long as you’re saying YES to everyone who asks something of you, you won’t have the time or energy to make the global difference you were born to make.
When you give yourself permission to say NO elegantly, you will free up your mind, body and spirit to attend to the things that you’re passionate about. You will be better-equipped to dive headfirst into what you love most. And you’ll be more effective in all areas of life and business.
You may already know that this series has been derived from the Brand Builders TV episode From Scared to Successful (Part One) with Fiona Dilston. Feel free to watch the entire video here, or just read on to learn a bit more about Fiona and how she recommends you move away from being a YES man or YES woman.
Let’s keep going! Learn it, model it and get shit done!
The Real Fiona Dilston
Fiona Dilston teaches her clients to facilitate weight loss by first caring for their emotional, physical and mental health. She addresses past trauma with Reiki, Seichem, EFT, homeopathy and counselling. She teaches people to say NO, elegantly, with a compassionate and holistic approach…so they can live their happiest, most fulfilling lives.
Without further ado, and in Fiona’s own words, let’s hear about how you can stop being a YES man or woman and start living a life you’ll love.
You NEED to Say YES to Yourself
When you have the opportunity, there is a need to say YES to yourself. Turn yourself around and face that camera, even if you feel like an idiot. Chances are it’s just your inner voice saying, “You’re a bit stupid today.” But you’re not. We are our own worst critics.
I’ve got an exercise for you. Grab paper and a pen. Have a think.
Write down five people you always say YES to.
This is important because when you write things down, you make things happen.
Why do you say YES to those people? Maybe it’s your boss, and if you don’t say YES, you’ll lose your job. Maybe it’s your children.
Next, write down the names of five people you sometimes say YES to.
Now write down the names of five people you resent saying YES to…and why.
This is the big one. It’s huge. This is your sticking point, and the area you need to look at the most. You might not have five people, or you might have more than five.
These are people you need to start thinking about in your life. There’s something there that is potentially less than healthy.
If I think about the five people I have come to the point of resenting, that is when I have gone against what was good, healthy and sensible for me. When I have done things against my better judgment, my body has had a moan about it. For me, it was my gall bladder. The body is a barometer.
So have a little think. Focus on this, or come back to these things. It might be more than you want to deal with at the moment.
And finally, write down the names of five people you would never say YES to now…and why.You may have said YES to them in the past, but would never say it now.
Transformation of the YES Man/Woman
I hope those names you wrote down got you thinking.
We all grow, change, develop and progress. Take a look at how far you’ve come and this may help you with any present resentments you’ve got. There can also be threads, patterns and similarities. The way someone looks, sounds, acts or the field they’re working in can bear those likenesses.
I invite you to have a look at those five people you always say YES to, five people you sometimes say YES to, five people you resent saying YES to, and five people you would never say YES to now.
This is going to help you review the situation, and if something does come up for you from this series, don’t hesitate to get in touch. I’d love to hear from you.
If some of this has touched you, it’s stuff you need to work on. If your health is less than brilliant, nine times out of ten, it’s emotional causation. I would love to get in there and help you see what this is. I can offer a 20-minute chemistry call with no obligation.
YES Man / YES Woman No More!
Whew! I don’t know about you, but I think Fiona has given us some sage advice. I can’t wait to get to work on this so I can free up more of my time to focus on my life and my brand.
When you’re a YES man or YES woman, it can be easy to think you’re making progress. In reality, all you’re doing is forwarding other people’s agendas, while your own goals and aspirations suffer.
If you are a people-pleaser and need more personalised help with saying NO, please don’t hesitate to contact Fiona Dilston and schedule your free discovery call. I know first-hand, from working with her in the Brand Builders Club, that she has a gift for unearthing problems and turning them around for the good of all involved.
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