The New Meaning of Tolerance, with Greg Garrity
How did you like the first part of this series, Find Hope to Enrich your Life, with Greg Garrity? With any luck, you’ve learnt that hope can be found in the smallest of places, and can then be grown to share with others. Now, in part two, it’s time to learn more about the meaning of tolerance, and what it looks like in this day and age.
As with all of our Brand Builders TV series, you may watch the entire recorded episode (How Can You Drive Change for Good? with Greg Garrity) below. Or just keep reading to learn more about Greg and experience part two of this three-part article series.
More About Greg Garrity
An entrepreneur, pioneer, international speaker and coach, Greg Garrity has spent more than ten years working in the care sector, devising programs around training, coaching and supporting carers and care recipients all across the North of England.
Greg wishes to demonstrate to our government that there are better ways to reach social goals for every member of humanity.
Greg Garrity continues to fight for new programs to enrich the lives of everyone along the social spectrum, while coaching CEOs in established businesses so they can reach new realms of success.
Now is the time to learn it, model it and get shit done. Get ready to hear from Greg in his own words. Let’s go!
The Meaning of Tolerance and Understanding
I’d now like to talk about understanding. When we talk about understanding, often it’s an idea of comprehension. I think we get lost in that. In reality, being understanding is probably more important. I might not comprehend your point of view straight away. You might be from a different background or a different country, and I might not fully get what you’re talking about in the first place. But if I come to you with an understanding approach, if I’m tolerant of you and the gap between us, that gap will soon reduce to nothing.
Tolerance is something we need to work on every day. We all have the right to our point of view. No one is arguing that. But I think you’ve got to take care when exercising that point of view. You can’t just say your view is right and everyone else is wrong. You’ve got to have some sort of emotional and social intelligence.
If I wanted to learn to juggle fireballs, I’d go into the middle of a field somewhere or a beach, set fire to my balls and then learn how to juggle them. I wouldn’t say, “I’m going to go down to the local Tesco, stand in the freezer aisle and juggle flaming balls.” Because I’m using social responsibility. I’m using my awareness of others and exercising that in my interactions with them.
It’s down to your personal response sometimes, with tolerance. Think. When you’re in your head and going about your day and someone annoys you, whether it’s cutting you off, standing in the middle of the shopping aisle with a trolley and staring into space, or if someone says something offensive…do you immediately dive in there, growling? Or do you take a step back and think, That could have been me last week? That could have been me when the kids were playing up, or someone had just called to cancel a contract.
If you tend to be the person who reacts to those annoyances, own up to yourself. You can’t change unless you take ownership of it. Acknowledge it, have a laugh and then ask yourself how you can adjust that.
You may think you’ve been annoyed and had your experience ruined in that moment, but you may have ruined the other person’s whole day by reacting the way you did. Or, you may have ruined their whole week if they’re teetering on a precipice with the stuff they’re going through. Just try to be aware of yourself all the time.
Mental Illness: The Silent Tsunami
There’s something we need to be conscious of when we’re talking about mental wellness. More and more people are becoming aware that mental unwellness is like a silent tsunami. It’s creeping up on society. You know the bit where the tsunami is building, and the water goes out from the beach? It just disappears. It’s all very quiet. And we’re just waiting for that great big wave to roll in.
At the moment, the water is disappearing from the beach and our government (regardless of political affiliation) is ignoring it because they don’t know how to handle it. At some point, we are going to have a major issue.
If you’re lucky enough to have wide family support, you can go to siblings, parents or grandparents for advice on how to get through a situation or to simply collect a hug.
More often than not, there’s lockdown, families are being dispersed, people are working solidly and only seeing their children for 20 or 30 minutes a day. Parents are struggling to cope. Not only with having to look after their children for hours on end or having to educate them, but they’re having to put on a brave face as their career perhaps crashes. You can’t be a skilled enough actor to get away with it. Even if you think you are, your kids will know something’s up—just like your partner will.
You’ve got to be able to talk to people about it. Don’t keep it all to yourself. I know someone who’s recently committed suicide, due to the collapse of their business. It’s tragic. If we can stop things like that—the poisonous atmosphere in families that are struggling to hold it together whilst looking after their children—why wouldn’t we?
Without Tolerance, Depression Multiplies
Depression has doubled. One in five people now struggles with depression. It’s mostly young adults, women and key workers.
Women have historically been keeping the families together. In most families, the father goes off to work and the mother parents the children. That’s just factual. That’s the way it’s been.
What will it be in the future? We will redesign, but at the moment it’s young adults. It’s key workers because they’re having to go out into this every day and deal with people who are cheesed off. They don’t want to be there. And so, we have to redesign the system.
Know the Meaning of Tolerance, to Make a Difference
I believe in Greg’s words. Tolerance is more important now than ever. So many people are feeling marginalised, lonely and forgotten. And the way people under stress react can test our tolerance.
And then, we need to redefine our needs, so that we can make a difference. In fact, that’s the title of the final instalment in this three-part series: Redefine Your Needs, to Make a Difference. Click on that link so you can complete this leg of the Drive Change for Good journey with Greg Garrity.
What’s the meaning of tolerance in your life? Have you felt a lack of tolerance from others? Or do you find it difficult to exercise tolerance?
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Let’s rewrite the meaning of tolerance together. If anyone can do it, we can!