Hello and welcome back to this three-part series with Caroline Purvey, all about a concept called buckets and diamonds, an alternate look at gambling…and now how to turn your stress and anxiety into something positive with TRE (Total Release Experience).
All of the content here is presented in Caroline’s own words, as taken from her Brand Builders TV episode, Understanding Buckets and Diamonds to Find your Truth, with Caroline Purvey. Feel free to keep on reading, or watch the entire video here.
So without further ado, let’s continue to learn it, model it and get shit done!
More About Caroline Purvey
What is TRE (Total Release Experience)? It’s a chief teaching in Caroline Purvey’s curriculum, in which she helps people to work through the negative, lasting effects of overwhelm, trauma, stress and anxiety. To accomplish this, she uses yoga, books, proprietary teachings and so much more.
Caroline works as a coach, practitioner, entrepreneur, instructor, author and teacher. She’s empowering all types of people to take their well-being into their own hands—and she’s about to do that for us, in her own words.
Stress and Anxiety, in Buckets
Buckets are part of life. We all live in a bucket world and we all have different degrees of content in our buckets. And for all that content, we have to choose whether to ignore it or move forward with it and do something to support it.
In our world, we call it Bucket Love. For many, their chips are down and they don’t love themselves for who they are. And that’s not a good place to be because if you can't love yourself, how can you be supportive and helpful to others?
So many wear a painted smile, covering up the struggle of the bucket they have to carry around. It’s not good. It’s not a happy world because deep in that bucket, guess what’s buried? Yes, the diamond!
Every baby born into this world (and that includes you) has a little diamond inside looking to shine. You are an amazing person. Are you as amazing as you can be? I’m going to say no, you’re not.
Nurture Yourself, to Release Stress and Anxiety
Every little thing we do that is nurturing (and we all deserve to be nurtured) gives us a little bit of a feel-good factor, and Bucket Love Cards are one way to do that.
Bucket Love Cards are fun for one or the whole family. Shuffle the cards at the beginning of the day, and with good intention, close your eyes and ask for the card that’s meant for you.
Someone got in touch with me to say, “I pulled the Talk card today and I went for a walk with friends and found myself talking more than I normally would.” That made them feel good.
Someone else pulled out the Kindness card and she said, “For the first time ever, I bought my friend a cup of coffee.” That was kind and I’m sure her friend was very pleased, but just that little act probably left her with a great feel-good factor.
Someone else was troubled and bought a pack of cards. I said, “Come on, shuffle the cards.” One dropped on the floor, and it was the Freedom card. Freedom is what we all need. Freedom from any physical, mental or emotional pain. I said, “That’s the one for you.” It said, Your bucket can choose whatever it needs today to give it love. How apt is that?
I was pulling cards earlier for my group (Regular Releases Group), and introducing the cards to them, and funny enough, the card I pulled was Learn. That was so appropriate for me at this time. In the age of technology, sometimes we have a struggle with it. I have learned so much in the last 24 hours, I cannot tell you! But that card was exactly what I needed.
Let’s go through and pick a card for you. Although it may not be appropriate for you in this moment, it may give you an idea. Can we please all the people all the time? I don’t know. But with good intention….
Your Bucket Love Card
The card is Music. What a lovely image. The images on the cards, by the way, were done by Jennifer Garrity, a very talented young lady. On the back of the card is a quote. “Buckets enjoy music and the activity. Play a musical instrument or listen to the music that feels exactly right for your bucket and enjoy it.”
Find some music you haven’t listened to in a long time. Tune in to some music that makes you feel good. Whether that’s calm and relaxing, or upbeat, rocky, dancey. I don’t know about you, but I love all sorts of music. Eclectic, I think they call it. Different music suits different moods.
Some of the other cards include Gratitude and Dream. That’s good Bucket Love.
Say Goodbye to Stress and Anxiety with the Bucket Concept
I hope you find the bucket concept interesting. You’re a bucket—a nearly empty bucket, a half-full bucket, or a very full bucket. Start to redefine yourself. Think about those things in life that you’re gambling with, that you have gambled with. Ask yourself Why have I made those decisions?
Was it pressure? Was it because you thought that was all you deserved? Was it because you thought you had no other choice? Was it because of fear?
It’s interesting isn’t it? Why do we make those choices? And if our bucket, like the computer, is full and not functioning or the memory’s going…that’s what happens with us.
As we start the journey of redefining, reflect on the answers to those questions, and then visit www.treuk.com. Message me with your concerns about stress and anxiety, or any other wellness concerns. I’d be happy to address them.
Go have a lovely day and have an experience with playing music. Enjoy!
Take Control of Your Stress and Anxiety
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In this, our second article in a three-article series about buckets and diamonds, Caroline Purvey is talking to us all about how we gamble with our choices every day, and how each gamble is necessary for emptying the stress bucket she taught us about in the first article, How to Relieve Stress.
In it, you will learn about why people gamble their money, but also how a different type of gambling goes on for all of us. And as a bonus, she will put decision-making in perspective.
The content here is in Caroline’s own words, as spoken in the full Brand Builders TV episode, Understanding Buckets and Diamonds to Find Your Truth. You may watch or read—it’s your choice!
As always, we’re going to learn it, model it and get shit done. Let’s go!
A Bit About Caroline Purvey
Caroline Purvey is a teacher, coach, instructor, practitioner, author and entrepreneur who’s educating and empowering people to take control of their own well-being. She is helping people to resolve the negative effects of stress, anxiety, overwhelm and trauma through her teachings, yoga classes, books, TRE (Total Release Experience) and much more.
Now, all about how we’re gambling our way through life, in Caroline’s own words.
Every Day We're Gambling
Let’s think now about how we actually get by. Whether we address the signals our buckets are making or we ignore them. How do we get by?
Let’s talk about the Big G, which stands for Gamble. When we say gamble, what do we think of? Playing the card, spinning the wheel, tossing the dice…there are many, many gambling addicts out there, and I can bet you that many of them are gambling addicts because they’re troubled. Their buckets are full and they don’t know what to do about it.
And so, gambling is a great way of distracting. That’s it. It’s a distraction from what’s really going on. We hide from our truth all the time. Instead of trying to get to the truth and sort it, we mask it. And gambling is a common addiction that ropes in so many.
It’s not just about gambling. It’s about life. Isn’t life a gamble?
Of course it is. For years, we’ve all been gambling. Think of the things you’ve been gambling with. It may not be obvious. We’ve been gambling with the friends we make, how we spend our time, the partner we choose to spend our life with…it’s a gamble every time. The jobs we take, the chances we take, the choices we make…life is one big gamble.
Everybody is in the business of gambling. I remember when my children were growing up, I said to them, “You have two choices. You can choose the A Road or the B Road. If you choose Road A, this might happen. If you choose Road B, this might happen. But it’s your choice. I’m not going to make that decision for you.”
I don’t know about you, but if you’re a parent, you know that children go one way or the other. They’ll either listen and take the advice or not. One of mine mostly did take my advice, whilst one thought, I think I know what you think I should do, so I’m going to do the opposite.
There might be a little splat as they fall into the puddle, and that’s it. We have to make our own choices, and even if we make a bad choice, we learn from it. We’re learning all the time. We’re learning from our experiences as we take those gambles.
Now we live in a changing world; a Covid environment. We’ve all started to get back to work, I’ve opened my yoga studio, I’ve created my yoga bubbles and it’s great.
But every time the prime minister makes his announcements, he’s taking a gamble. He’s taking a gamble for the country, and we’re all going to be impacted.
Can we carry on doing what we’re doing? Or do we have to change the way we’re doing things? That’s the way it is. I don’t envy the government with the task they have to deal with, but on every level of your life, when you think about it, it’s a gamble. You win some, you lose some. When the chips are down, you have to pull yourself back up. You have to deal yourself a good hand every time—that’s what we hope for, but it doesn’t always work like that.
What gambling have you had to deal with in your life? What decisions have you made? What choices have you made? Is there any regret about them? You shouldn’t have regret because you made a choice and it doesn’t matter how bad things get, the only way is up and you learn from the choice you made.
And that’s it. As long as you learn, there should be no regrets. That’s gambling.
Can You Get Used to Gambling?
That’s some good stuff from our friend, Caroline Purvey! Hearing from her that life is full of gambles really puts a different perspective on things, doesn’t it? I think it reminds us that even if we choose not to decide, that’s a gamble, too. We are gambling on what might happen to our lives and businesses if we choose to do nothing. A lack of forward movement rarely ends well, and is therefore a gamble with poor stakes for winning.
So we’ve heard Caroline talk about stress buckets, stress relief, gambling…and now it’s time to talk about the diamond we all have stashed in our buckets. There is a diamond inside each one of us just waiting to shine, and Caroline is going to teach us how to find it in the final instalment, Stress and Anxiety, Released with Love. After you’re finished there, remember to subscribe to the Brand Builders TV YouTube channel, and never miss another episode!
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Today, we’re bringing you the first in a series of three articles from Caroline Purvey of The Total Release Experience, where she’s taking people through a five-step programme that works to relieve stress, as well as the symptoms of overwhelm and trauma.
Caroline is going to talk to us about understanding the stress bucket concept. She’s also going to take us through a process that will enable you to redefine your truth and then shine like never before.
I hope you’ll join us to discover who the true YOU really is, to learn how to empty that stress bucket and refill it with all the things that make you shine.
This article’s content has been taken from Caroline’s Brand Builders TV episode, Understanding Buckets and Diamonds to Find Your Truth. You may watch the entire episode here, or you may wish to read on to learn about the stress bucket illustration, as well as stress relief, in Caroline’s own words.
It’s time to learn it, model it and get shit done. Let’s go!
Meet Caroline Purvey
TRE (Total Release Experience) was unheard of in the UK before Caroline Purvey introduced it. She studied TRE in South Africa under Dr. David Berceli, found herself inspired by its people and stories and is now an independent TRE Practitioner, as well as the CEO of TRE UK.
She continues to enhance and develop the program in the UK, with the utmost respect for the integrity of the originator’s work.
Caroline is also a teacher, yoga instructor, reflexologist, trainer, Indian head massage practitioner, holistic therapist and coach specializing in practices that relieve stress and anxiety while teaching us about work/life balance.
Now let’s hear all about how to relieve stress, in Caroline’s own words.
Relieve Stress, with Caroline Purvey
Hello, I’m Caroline Purvey and we’re going to be talking about buckets, diamonds and finding your truth. How do you find your truth? You have to redefine your truth.
I’m an author three times this year. I was privileged to write a chapter for two books and when you write a story, whether it’s a chapter or a book, you’re taking yourself out of your comfort zone—and that’s necessary in order to discover your truth. This series is about getting you curious about how that happens and how you can get to experience the true YOU.
“The comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there.” That’s from my own book, Feel it to Heal it, which was launched in October, 2020.
I teach yoga as well. And constantly, I encourage participants to step out of their comfort zone. Sitting with old habits and not noticing, we don’t get to understand who we really are and how we should move forward. This is about resetting that reset button.
Did you know you had a reset button? In order to reset, we have to redefine ourselves. We have to go a little deeper, in a comfortable way.
The Reset Button
Let’s think about the reset button.
Reset buttons always remind me of computers. And I’d like to make that analogy.
I’ve gone through more computers in my life than people go through dinners in a week. Why? Probably like most, I’ve had to use computers and rely on technology over the years. Isn’t it great when you buy that new laptop or computer, it’s moving fast, you can feed it with what you like, and it keeps going?
Computers are hard-wired, complex things and yet seem so simple to use, don’t they? We hit the keys, we load things up, we download things…and then one day, you start to notice it’s slowing down, it’s not firing on all cylinders, and we keep saying “I must get somebody to look at this.” “I must take off some of the stuff I’ve overloaded this with.” Unfortunately, we don’t do that. We try, but then we’re always afraid to hit a button that will cause something to happen we don’t like.
Then one day you’re sitting in front of that computer and it won’t open. It’s got no life. You hit a key and get the option to use the reset button to take it back to factory settings. How about that? We know in our minds that if we take it back to factory settings, it will be clean and shiny and functional, and come back to life.
But no, we keep ignoring the signs and keep hoping the problems will go away. We do a little tweak here and there. We delete some files and wish we hadn’t. Wished we’d stored them somewhere else. And then that day comes when you hit the button and nothing…the whole thing’s just died because it’s been overloaded.
Do you have that picture? Have you been there?
Now think of the human body. Your human body. It’s amazing, isn’t it? If you’re sitting there reading this, what’s your body doing? Chugging away, keeping you going? Wonderful. You don’t have to think much about it.
And yet, just like the computer, you’re arriving to the world, shiny and new; and over the years, you’re fed data. You receive information and you start to fill up. You take in images and conversations, experiences…and as we all know, life is like a game of snakes and ladders. You’re up, you’re down, good times, bad times…but you take it all in. And then what happens?
Your bucket fills up, that’s what.
Your Body is a Stress Bucket
Let’s put this into context. Imagine your body as a bucket. Psychologist in the 70s said that human beings were stress buckets. There’s no denying that because stress is part of life. There’s good stress and there’s bad stress, but we’re concerned with the bad stress.
You fill that stress bucket up with all the information you put in it—all the images, all the experiences…and suddenly it gets so full that your wiring gets knocked out. You start to notice that you’re not functioning on all levels. Then something’s knocking from inside. Hello? Are you hearing me? Got pain? Neck pain? Shoulder pain? Hip pain? This is your butt-kick saying, “Take notice!” But we don’t. We ignore it.
So many people come to my yoga class and say, “I hope this sorts my back out tonight.” I know it will help, but it won’t sort it because it’s something else.
Got problems? IBS…another signal from the bucket. Can’t sleep? Headaches? Mood swings? Maybe panic attacks, stress and anxiety? These are all little signs that the bucket is getting rather full and needs some attention. Just like the computer.
What happens if we ignore the signals? It leads to something worse. Before we know it, we’re either going to the doctor for surgery or being taken into the hospital. And for many, who have completely ignored those signals, it results in heart attack, stroke, cancer, suicide.
If we think of life in a bucket, that’s what happens. But it’s not all bad because we can do something about it. To do that, we have to redefine ourselves.
The Next Step to Relieve Stress
Sammy here! I hope you feel as intrigued as I did the first time I heard Caroline Purvey speak about stress relief. She is a master of illustrations that shine new light on the ways in which we take on new stresses every day, and how our buckets can end up overflowing with information.
In the next article, Gambling as a Way of Life, Caroline will be talking about the signals those full buckets are giving us and the gambles we’re obligated to take.
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