How did you like the first part of this series, Find Hope to Enrich your Life, with Greg Garrity? With any luck, you’ve learnt that hope can be found in the smallest of places, and can then be grown to share with others. Now, in part two, it’s time to learn more about the meaning of tolerance, and what it looks like in this day and age.
As with all of our Brand Builders TV series, you may watch the entire recorded episode (How Can You Drive Change for Good? with Greg Garrity) below. Or just keep reading to learn more about Greg and experience part two of this three-part article series.
More About Greg Garrity
An entrepreneur, pioneer, international speaker and coach, Greg Garrity has spent more than ten years working in the care sector, devising programs around training, coaching and supporting carers and care recipients all across the North of England.
Greg wishes to demonstrate to our government that there are better ways to reach social goals for every member of humanity.
Greg Garrity continues to fight for new programs to enrich the lives of everyone along the social spectrum, while coaching CEOs in established businesses so they can reach new realms of success.
Now is the time to learn it, model it and get shit done. Get ready to hear from Greg in his own words. Let’s go!
The Meaning of Tolerance and Understanding
I’d now like to talk about understanding. When we talk about understanding, often it’s an idea of comprehension. I think we get lost in that. In reality, being understanding is probably more important. I might not comprehend your point of view straight away. You might be from a different background or a different country, and I might not fully get what you’re talking about in the first place. But if I come to you with an understanding approach, if I’m tolerant of you and the gap between us, that gap will soon reduce to nothing.
Tolerance is something we need to work on every day. We all have the right to our point of view. No one is arguing that. But I think you’ve got to take care when exercising that point of view. You can’t just say your view is right and everyone else is wrong. You’ve got to have some sort of emotional and social intelligence.
If I wanted to learn to juggle fireballs, I’d go into the middle of a field somewhere or a beach, set fire to my balls and then learn how to juggle them. I wouldn’t say, “I’m going to go down to the local Tesco, stand in the freezer aisle and juggle flaming balls.” Because I’m using social responsibility. I’m using my awareness of others and exercising that in my interactions with them.
It’s down to your personal response sometimes, with tolerance. Think. When you’re in your head and going about your day and someone annoys you, whether it’s cutting you off, standing in the middle of the shopping aisle with a trolley and staring into space, or if someone says something offensive…do you immediately dive in there, growling? Or do you take a step back and think, That could have been me last week? That could have been me when the kids were playing up, or someone had just called to cancel a contract.
If you tend to be the person who reacts to those annoyances, own up to yourself. You can’t change unless you take ownership of it. Acknowledge it, have a laugh and then ask yourself how you can adjust that.
You may think you’ve been annoyed and had your experience ruined in that moment, but you may have ruined the other person’s whole day by reacting the way you did. Or, you may have ruined their whole week if they’re teetering on a precipice with the stuff they’re going through. Just try to be aware of yourself all the time.
Mental Illness: The Silent Tsunami
There’s something we need to be conscious of when we’re talking about mental wellness. More and more people are becoming aware that mental unwellness is like a silent tsunami. It’s creeping up on society. You know the bit where the tsunami is building, and the water goes out from the beach? It just disappears. It’s all very quiet. And we’re just waiting for that great big wave to roll in.
At the moment, the water is disappearing from the beach and our government (regardless of political affiliation) is ignoring it because they don’t know how to handle it. At some point, we are going to have a major issue.
If you’re lucky enough to have wide family support, you can go to siblings, parents or grandparents for advice on how to get through a situation or to simply collect a hug.
More often than not, there’s lockdown, families are being dispersed, people are working solidly and only seeing their children for 20 or 30 minutes a day. Parents are struggling to cope. Not only with having to look after their children for hours on end or having to educate them, but they’re having to put on a brave face as their career perhaps crashes. You can’t be a skilled enough actor to get away with it. Even if you think you are, your kids will know something’s up—just like your partner will.
You’ve got to be able to talk to people about it. Don’t keep it all to yourself. I know someone who’s recently committed suicide, due to the collapse of their business. It’s tragic. If we can stop things like that—the poisonous atmosphere in families that are struggling to hold it together whilst looking after their children—why wouldn’t we?
Without Tolerance, Depression Multiplies
Depression has doubled. One in five people now struggles with depression. It’s mostly young adults, women and key workers.
Women have historically been keeping the families together. In most families, the father goes off to work and the mother parents the children. That’s just factual. That’s the way it’s been.
What will it be in the future? We will redesign, but at the moment it’s young adults. It’s key workers because they’re having to go out into this every day and deal with people who are cheesed off. They don’t want to be there. And so, we have to redesign the system.
Know the Meaning of Tolerance, to Make a Difference
I believe in Greg’s words. Tolerance is more important now than ever. So many people are feeling marginalised, lonely and forgotten. And the way people under stress react can test our tolerance.
And then, we need to redefine our needs, so that we can make a difference. In fact, that’s the title of the final instalment in this three-part series: Redefine Your Needs, to Make a Difference. Click on that link so you can complete this leg of the Drive Change for Good journey with Greg Garrity.
What’s the meaning of tolerance in your life? Have you felt a lack of tolerance from others? Or do you find it difficult to exercise tolerance?
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Let’s rewrite the meaning of tolerance together. If anyone can do it, we can!
Welcome to another Brand Builders TV series in which we’re bringing you deep-dive topics, tools and resources from leaders within the Brand Builders Club. Today, Greg Garrity is going to teach us how to find hope and then use that hope to enrich our lives and the lives of others.
In these troubling times, it’s getting harder and harder for people to find the hope necessary for living a fulfilled and purposeful life. We all deserve to find that hope for ourselves—and we also have a duty to help our fellow human beings discover hope in the midst of sorrow, loneliness and despair.
Greg has created the HUMANITY model as part of his upcoming manifesto, and he’s sharing parts of it with us in this intriguing and very important series of three articles.
Communication became more complex for all of us during Covid19 lockdown. Even today, many of us have to strive for our limited daily interactions to have more positive impact on ourselves and others.
If you’d like to watch the entire 30-minute Brand Builders TV episode, How Can You Drive Change for Good? (Part One), you may do so below. Or simply keep reading for part one of this three-part series.
Let’s learn a bit about Greg and then we’ll dive right into how to find hope, in his own words.
Meet Greg Garrity
Greg Garrity is an international coach, public speaker and pioneering entrepreneur. He’s on a mission to demonstrate to our government that social goals can be achieved in alternative ways, for the benefit of humanity.
Greg spent more than a decade on boards for various care companies. While in those positions, he presented countless coaching, training and support programs and then managed staff to deliver those programs across Northern England.
He recognises the need for high-quality caregivers, as well as sufficient housing for those being cared for. He now uses what he’s learnt in the care sector to train CEOs in established businesses to reach their next level of success.
Now let’s hear from Greg Garrity, in his own words, about the importance of hope for every human being.
We’re going to learn it, model it and get shit done. Let’s go!
How to Find Hope on a Daily Basis
Hello and welcome! My name is Greg Garrity and I am founder of the movement Drive Change For Good. I’m going to be talking through some of the things I find that make me normal, and ask questions about whether it’s your normal…or whether or not normal is normal.
First let’s talk about hope. I find on a day-to-day basis that my level of hope—my ability to hope—is something that enriches my life. Even in the small things. For instance, when I wake up in the morning, I like to have fresh coffee. I know every morning I get to grind the beans. I get to listen to the noise. I get to anticipate the taste and smell of the crushed beans. When I add the water, it’s absolutely fabulous. I get to sit outside on the boat or on the pontoon in the sun and drink my coffee.
It’s anticipation of the experience and whom I’m going to have that experience with that makes hope such an important part of life. I expect that as I get older, I’m going to have that same level of hope in regard to moving forward.
It has occurred to me that a lot of people we know (or more importantly, don’t know) are struggling with the idea of how to maintain hope. If they’re ill or socially isolated, if they’re people who prior to Covid-19 had no close friends, or didn’t see people on a daily basis…where’s the hope? How can we give them hope? How can we maintain hope for those who are socially isolated in the current paradigm?
That’s the question, and that’s what I’m working to figure out.
That’s the reason I started the Drive Change For Good movement: to redesign the way we deliver social care. It’s got to be done, and I’m more than happy to take any ideas you have and work with them. If they’re outside the box, but I can make them work, I will look at them. I don’t care how crazy they sound. We need to totally redesign.
If We Don’t Find Hope: an Unfavourable Forecast
If we fail parents now because we don’t have the services they need, and we fail the children who have become more anxious, and who are struggling with education and wondering if they should be spending time with friends…then what?
In ten years’ time, we’re going to be working with those children as adults. And we’re going to be saying that society is going down the drain because we have all these people without jobs and without purpose. We’ll be putting them in detention centres because they’ve got mental health issues and they’re unable to live in society. That will be our problem. We either try to resolve it now, or we reap the whirlwind in another decade.
The only way around this is to take action, through purposeful behaviour.
Find Hope Through Action
A lot of people get action and behaviour mixed up. They’ll say they take action all the time. They cook breakfast, go to work. But is that action or just the reflexive behaviour of normal life?
I’m talking about purposeful action; about you making a conscious decision to change your circumstances. Whether it’s your mental state, your physical state or your physical environment. You have to take purposeful action to ensure that you maintain your mental wellness.
There are lots of people out there wondering if they have a future in their job. Do they have a career anymore? How can they ensure that if Covid happens again (or something similar) that their income is future-proof? How can they make sure they never go through this stress again?
It’s usually the people at the lowest end of the scale asking these questions. People who are fretting because they can only make their wage last for the month and then they’re back to square one.
You have to consider, seriously, how you can change your life. It might be as simple as getting a different job. I understand that’s not that simple, but it’s about being decisive. It might be that you say, “At this moment in time, this is making me ill. I need to take time for myself.” That might be sick time or whatever you have available. During that time, you might re-educate yourself. If you’ve got valuable skills, you might think about doing consultation work, rather than being employed by someone who can control your life by saying, “Don’t come in tomorrow. You no longer have a job.”
Even if you just think these things through, it will change the way you perceive yourself and your position. Taking control is the action you need to make your life better. While you’re taking control, please ask yourself what it would be like if, whether because of mental un-wellness, physical condition or injury, you were unable to take this action.
Most of you are very lucky, because with a change in mindset you can take action. But think about all the people out there who were socially isolated before Covid and who are still unable to take that action.
When you’re out and about, if you see someone who looks like they’re struggling, go and talk to them. Ask them how they are. Do that terribly non-British thing. Don’t ask and then disappear, but ask them like you mean it. Give them the time. Allow them to talk to you because you’re making a difference.
We are in a time where lots of the old systems we’ve discovered are unsuitable for our purposes long-term. It’s our time to rewrite them. Let’s not waste it. Let’s rewrite the hell out of them and make them the best they can be.
Find That Glimmer of Hope...and Then What?
That concludes part one of this three-part series. Greg’s words really ring true, don’t they? If we can all find hope in the smallest of things, and then spread that hope to others, what a wonderful world it could be!
So let’s keep moving forward. Next up, Greg is talking about what tolerance looks like, especially in the current state of the world. He’s going to talk to us about how each one of us deserves tolerance, and therefore should pass it along to others as well.
Not sure how to do that? You’re not alone! Join us in part two, The New Meaning of Tolerance, with Greg Garrity. Then, move on to part three, Redefine your Needs to Make a Difference. It’s just one more step in improving the current social situation for ourselves and everyone we affect.
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