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The Stages of Grief and an Exercise, with Philippa Bennett

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Welcome! You have landed on article three in a series of articles about moving up the emotional scale. In this, the final instalment, Philippa Bennett is talking about the stages of grief—but she’s not stopping there. She’s also giving us a valuable exercise that can be used to rise up from any negative emotion involving others.

If you missed parts one and two, I highly suggest you read them at Setting Intentions and The Emotional Scale. They lay the foundation for what’s being presented here.

As with all Brand Builders TV article series, this one has been taken from a Brand Builders TV episode. If you prefer to watch, listen and learn, simply hit play on the video below (From Grief to Gratitude Part 2, How to Move up the Emotional Scale). Apart from that, just keep on reading!

Get to know Philippa Bennett

Whenever someone mentions a life and mindfulness coach who uses heavy metal music to increase confidence and joy, your mind should turn to Philippa Bennett. Through her platform, The Mindfulness Moshpit, Philippa is working with people to increase motivation, turn pain into positivity and find happiness.

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Now, let’s read what she has to say about the stages of grief, in her own words.

Learn it, model it and get shit done. Let’s go!

The Five Stages of Grief

Most people have heard about the five stages of grief.

1.  Denial

Denial, the first stage, is not on the emotional scale. When you first get the news, you may feel unable to comprehend what’s happened.

2.  Anger

Anger is number 17 on the emotional scale. That’s fairly low down, but not at the bottom.

3. Bargaining

This is the most vulnerable stage of grief. If you’ve lost a relationship, you might be begging and promising to change. You might think about what-ifs and wonder what you could have done differently.

After my father committed suicide, I said, “If only I’d seen the signs. If only I’d done something or said something.” This is a very tough stage, but it’s important to know that you have no control over anyone else’s life or emotions.

4.  Depression

This one is at the bottom of the emotional scale. You may be surprised to learn that as you move through the stages of grief, you’re moving down the emotional scale. You might expect that time heals and you’d move up. But that’s not how it works…and actually, time doesn’t heal—but energy work does.

5.  Acceptance

I don’t think acceptance is the best word for describing the final stage of grief. I think a better word might be resignation because you believe there’s nothing more you can do. That doesn’t mean you come out of the grief process. Instead, it’s where you start to do the work to clear that grief. If you don’t do that work and move up the emotional scale, you may end up a jilted, angry person.

Past Trauma and Grief

There are four areas of life that people tend to struggle with. Those areas are Health, Relationships, Livelihood and Finance. Trouble in any of these areas could be related to past trauma or grief that’s not been dealt with. It could also be due to the fact that regular energy work is not being done.

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In my first Brand Builders TV episode, I asked people to rate themselves in each area, on a scale of 1 to 10. Some people rated themselves as a 9 for health, which is really great. In the Livelihood and Finance areas, most people rated themselves about a 6, which is kind of middle-of-the-road and fairly low, really (We’d all like a bit more money, I think).

Now, if you’d like to choose an area of your life that you think could use some energetic work, please do so. Maybe it’s your financial situation. Maybe a relationship with a co-worker, spouse or parent is causing you trouble Maybe they’re not behaving in a way that you’d like them to.

Now really think about that situation and how you feel. Whose fault is it about the way you feel? Who is to blame for the way you feel about it?

Maybe you’re feeling angry or frustrated. Whose fault is that?

Is it your fault for having that feeling or not doing the energy work? Do you think it’s the other person’s fault, because they’re making you feel those negative emotions?

Just have a think about that, how you feel, and whom you blame for the way you’re feeling. If there is a negative emotion at play, we usually think there’s someone to blame (even if it’s ourselves). There’s usually a reason we think it’s happening to us.

Who’s Fault is it? An Exercise

Now for that exercise. You’ve got that person whom you think is to blame (yourself or someone else). Now sit quietly, where you know you won’t be disturbed. Take some deep breaths to settle the mind. Allow your mind to calm. Take a few more deep breaths until you feel relaxed and comfortable.

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In your mind’s eye, think about someone who brings up feelings of love. It could be a friend, a pet, a celebrity…even a material object.

Mind that feeling of love for a minute. This will raise your vibration. Sit with that for a bit.

Very quickly, change the person in your mind’s eye to the person you’re blaming. And with all that love you’ve still got inside you, blast the person you’re blaming with those loving feelings. With that blamed person in your mind’s eye, say, “I forgive you.”

This can be tricky for some people. In fact, the first time you try it, you might be feeling a bit of resentment—not too positive about it. But I guarantee if you practice it on a regular basis—it might take five times, or five times a day for a month—you will start to feel a shift in energy toward this person.

Moving Through the Stages of Grief

We can’t move up the emotional scale until we feel forgiveness for the things we think people have made us feel. Because feelings, energy and emotions come from within us, not from outside us. It can be difficult to forgive, and to get over the hump where we’re saying they’re not worthy of our love and then giving them unconditional love anyway. That’s really what going to take us from the bottom of the emotional scale to the top (eventually).

Once you’ve completed that exercise, ask yourself if it has improved your feelings for the person you blame (again, yourself or someone else). Remember it can be very difficult to do, but I suggest you repeat as many times as necessary to feel love for the person you blame.

I have had trouble taking myself through this exercise, particularly in the area of past relationships that hadn’t worked out as I’d wished they would. But it really does work. When you go through that exercise, you should feel your energy moving up the emotional scale.

A Better Understanding of the Stages of Grief

Do you have a better grasp on the stages of grief? Why they’re important and how to move up the emotional scale to get through them?

This article series from Philippa Bennett will undoubtedly prove invaluable to people who are struggling to free themselves from grief and sadness. If you know someone who’s having a tough time right now, maybe forward the links to them—it could be just what they need to feel joy again.

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The Emotional Scale, with Philippa Bennett

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Hello, and welcome to part two in this series—all about moving up the emotional scale. In the first instalment, Setting Intentions, Philippa Bennett taught us about the difference between setting goals and setting intentions.

Setting intention is a more energetic exercise, and provides the vibrational shift necessary for moving up the emotional scale, toward Joy and Love.

Now, she’s going to show us what the emotional scale looks like, so we can have a visual to guide us on our climb.

This entire article series has been taken from the Philippa’s Brand Builders TV episode, From Grief to Gratitude Part 2, How to Move up the Emotional Scale.

You may choose to watch that entire recording here, or just skip over the video to get to article number two.

Let’s learn it, model it and get shit done!

More About Philippa Bennett

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Philippa Bennett, a life and mindfulness coach, can be found working with people to increase their confidence by channeling their inner rock gods. If you’re a metal head, you’ll want to check out The Mindfulness Moshpit, where Philippa is helping people to change pain into positivity, get motivated and find happiness.

If you’re not a metal head, keep reading—because the wisdom Philippa has to share applies to every life.

No let’s hear from Philippa in her own words.

The 22 Levels on the Emotional Scale

Today, we’re talking about moving up the emotional scale. Have you heard of the emotional scale?

There are 22 items on the emotional scale. They are:

  1. Joy / Appreciation / Empowerment / Freedom / Love
  2. Passion
  3. Enthusiasm / Eagerness / Happiness
  4. Positive Expectations / Belief
  5. Optimism
  6. Hopefulness
  7. Contentment
  8. Boredom
  9. Pessimism
  10. Frustration / Irritation / Impotence
  11. Overwhelm
  12. Disappointment
  13. Doubt
  14. Worry
  15. Blame / Shame / Guilt
  16. Discouragement
  17. Anger
  18. Revenge
  19. Hatred / Rage
  20. Jealousy
  21. Insecurity / Guilt / Unworthiness
  22. Fear / Grief / Depression / Despair / Powerlessness

At the bottom of the scale, we have the really low-vibration emotions that we quite often go through in life. That could be because an event has triggered grief, or because you’re suffering from depression. Or, maybe you’re in a situation you can’t get out of and you’re experiencing feelings of despair and hopelessness.

At the top of the emotional scale is what we’re aiming for in our daily lives. For some people, that might be very difficult to feel love and appreciation. One thing to note is that it doesn’t matter if you’re at the bottom of the emotional scale, in depression, fear and grief, you can’t get up to the top just like that.

The Top of the Emotional Scale

What do Freedom and Love mean for you? Is it a feeling? Or something you associate with a specific situation?

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For me, I’m an animal lover and any time I see an animal I get lovely, warm feelings of love. I can identify that chemical feeling as love. I also have that for my partner, mum, family members, a few friends…and I really get that feeling of love coming up in certain situations and with certain people. It can even happen with a pet or a celebrity.

The Bottom of the Emotional Scale

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If you’re feeling down and depressed, or not feeling good about a situation, what do you do to lift your spirits or make yourself feel better?

I have never suffered from depression, but what I normally do is when I’m feeling down, I dig a hole in the garden because that’s my therapy. If I’m doing something productive, with dirt on my hands and close to nature, that uplifts me.

Even the clothing you wear can have a positive effect. Wearing the right colours and style for you can really boost your confidence and energy.

Unfortunately, a lot of people turn to food, alcohol or drugs. In fact, I did that. I tried to drink away my grief, and it didn’t help at all. That’s not a valid way to move up the emotional scale.

An Emotional-Scale Case Study

I’ve got a real-life case study about why this emotional and energy work is so important. In my last series, I talked about the concept of creating your own reality. For some people, that can be a tricky concept to wrap their head around.

The person in question had come onto the live broadcast of my first Brand Builders TV episode and made some nasty comments. It turns out that person was an ex-partner of mine. That person has since been banned from the page.

This person was still feeling the loss of our relationship. It might have seemed to anyone who didn’t know us, him or me that this event happened fairly recently. When in fact, the relationships had ended 20 years ago.

The grief associated with the loss of the relationship is still making this person very bitter and angry to the point of deciding to attack on that public platform.

This is a great example of why energy work is so important. I have to be grateful to this person for offering a live example of how important this work is. It's not something you can enter into when grief and depression are fresh. If someone is in the early stages of grief, telling them to create their own reality is not going to help them.

In Conclusion

Thank you, Philippa.

Were you aware of the Emotional Scale before reading this article? I had heard of it, but hadn’t explored it in such detail.

I hope this has given you some insight into how you can determine where you sit on the emotional scale, as well as some things you can do to start raising your vibration and your level.

Next, it’s on to the final instalment in this article series, called The Stages of Grief and an Exercise, with Philippa Bennett. In it, Philippa will review the stages of grief, talk about some things she would change about it, and then give you an exercise that will help you pull yourself up from ill feelings like jealousy, anger, depression…and of course, grief.

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Setting Intentions, with Philippa Bennett

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Welcome to Brand Builders TV! Deep-dive topics, tools and resources brought to you by global thought leaders from within the Brand Builders Club. This series gives you access to the strategies you can use to move forward in every area of your life and business.

In this series, Philippa is diving deep into how to move up the emotional scale. After identifying the starting point, and how you feel about the four main areas of your life, it’s time to now learn some techniques and strategies to move up.

Grief keeps us stuck down at the low end of the scale. While we can still experience feelings of joy and happiness, if we don’t learn the strategies to move up from grief and start to transform it, they can be little more than fleeting moments before we’re dragged back down again.

All of the articles in this series have been derived from Philippa’s Brand Builders TV episode, From Grief to Gratitude Part 2, How to Move up the Emotional Scale. If you’re a digital learner, then please, view the entire episode below. Otherwise, just keep on reading!

Enjoy this series. Learn it, model it and get shit done. Let’s go!

Meet Philippa Bennett

Phillipa Bennett is curator of The Mindfulness Moshpit, where she’s helping people to find happiness, pivot pain to positivity and get motivated…all within the realm of heavy metal music. With her guidance, you can learn to channel your inner rock god to be confident in any situation.

Brand Builders TV Setting Intentions Philippa Bennett

Philippa Bennett is a life coach who’s taking an alternative look at mental health, to reach more people and to make a bigger difference.

Now, without further ado, let’s hear what Philippa has to say about setting intentions, in her own words.

About Setting Intentions

Hello again! My name is Philippa Bennett, and this is my second article series with Brand Builders Club. All of these articles are taken from my Brand Builders TV episodes.

In the first series, I talked about the questions What Is Happiness? and What Is Grief? Then we looked at four important aspects of life: Relationships, Health, Livelihood and Finance. And we had a quick look at where you are on a scale of one to ten in those areas.

Of course, there are other parts of life to look at, but those were the four we covered.

In this three-article series, we’re going to be looking at how to move up the emotional scale. Before we get into how to do that, I want to talk to you very quickly about setting intentions.

What Setting Intentions Means

You might be thinking, setting intentions is just aiming to do something—but that’s actually quite different. That’s goal setting. Goal setting looks like, Today I’m going to mow the lawn, This week I’m going to get this piece of work done or I’m going to make sure I win the lottery on Saturday. Those are goals.

Intentions are more energetic and have more to do with what you’re going to get out of a situation. Before going into any activity, especially when we’re talking about emotions and things like moving up the emotional scale, we need to set a good intention.

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For example, an intention might be, Today I choose to see the good in everything I do. Or, It’s my intention today to have good interactions with everyone I meet. If you’re going to do some energy work, it can be, My intention is to get the best out of this work or situation.

So that’s the difference between setting goals and setting intentions. Setting intentions is about what you want to get out of a situation on an emotional level.

Let's Start Setting Intentions

Thanks to Philippa, we now have a good handle on what it means to set intentions. No matter what intention you’re planning to set today, moving onto the second part of this series will help you to fulfill that.

In The Emotional Scale, Phillipa Bennett is going to introduce us to the 22 levels on the emotional scale. They go from Fear / Grief / Depression / Despair / Powerlessness at the bottom, all the way to Joy / Appreciation / Empowerment / Freedom / Love at the top. You’ll learn more about what’s in between, as well as some tips for moving up.

Setting intentions is one way to increase your energetic vibration, to move up that emotional scale. So let’s get on with setting those intentions…and to the second instalment in this series.

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The Impact of Grief on Happiness, with Philippa Bennett

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You can move toward joy and fulfilment while doing away with the grief that’s been weighing you down. You don’t have to forget. You don’t have to dishonour that grief...but you can clear the sludge that’s been keeping you from enjoying your life.

Hello and welcome to this, the final instalment of a three-part series on grief and gratitude. The first two articles (Surviving Grief and Find Happiness in Spite of Griefexplain Philippa Bennett’s personal grief and help you to define happiness. In this series finale, you’ll be rating all the areas of your life that may be affected by grief, and then envisioning how they can be improved. This will move you closer to fulfilment and joy, without the overbearing weight of unresolved grief.

All three articles in this series have been derived from Philippa’s first Brand Builders TV episode, From Grief to Gratitude with Philippa Bennett. You may watch the entire episode below, or keep scrolling to read the conclusion of this series.

Let’s reintroduce ourselves to Philippa before we move on.

And then, it will be time to learn it, model it and get shit done. Let’s go!

More About Philippa Bennett

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Philippa Bennett has gained great satisfaction from helping people to move through their grief, to find happiness in every day.

She has worked as a homeopath and therapist, catering to professionals, entrepreneurs and business owners who long to release themselves from grief and all its negative effects.

Philippa is open in sharing her own journey through grief, initiated by her Dad’s suicide, and she uses her story to develop deep, meaningful connections and to demonstrate that there is always hope.

Currently, she’s working as a life coach and mentor, “helping metal heads channel their inner rock-god so they can be confident in any situation.” If you love heavy metal music, I encourage you to subscribe to The Mindfulness Moshpit podcast.

Now, let’s hear more from Philippa in her own words.

Identifying the Impact of Grief in your Life

Grab your pen and paper. There are four concepts that I think are mainly impacted by trauma and grief inside you. So write these headings on your paper:

1.  Health

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2.  Relationships

Brand Builders TV Impact Of Grief Philippa Bennett

3.  Livelihood

Brand Builders TV Philippa Bennett Impact Of Grief

4.  Finance

Brand Builders TV Philippa Bennett Impact Of Grief

Now rate your happiness in each area on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the least happy). Your health is not just physical health, but mental health and weight as well. The relationships category covers your relationships with yourself, spouse, partner, friends, family, work colleagues, etc. Your livelihood is your job or career. And your finances cover your money situation.

In my program, if you’ve rated anything between 1 and 4, that’s what I call Victimhood.

You create your own reality.

How does that statement make you feel? It may feel a bit prickly. Maybe you didn’t create your trauma, or drop something on your toe and break it...or didn’t ask that car to come out of nowhere and hit you.

People tend to have a problem with that statement. But, if you’re between 1 and 4, then you think you’re not high on the scale because of other people. You feel that life is happening to you. “It’s not my fault. Things just happen to me.” “I’m not making money because people aren’t buying my product.” “My relationships are bad because my spouse is an idiot and he doesn’t listen to what I’m saying.” “My mom doesn’t hear me.” This is victimhood.

If you’re at a 5-7, that’s pretty good and you’re working on it. You’re doing the work, feeling good about things and you’re in the process of moving yourself up the emotional scale.

If you’re at 7+, you’re really doing well. I don’t think you can ever be at 10, because that means everything is perfect, and we’ll always be wanting a little more.

So getting back to the statement YOU CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY: How does it feel inside you to think that? Are you absolutely sure and comfortable with the concept of creating your own reality? Creating your own world around you? Does it trigger anything? Does it feel prickly?

If it does, then you know you’ve got work to do—and that’s a step in the right direction.

Trick your Brain to Reduce the Impact of Grief

The human brain doesn’t know what’s real and what’s not.

Imagine you’ve got a lime in your hand. We all know what a lime looks like. It smells quite nice and has that deep green, waxy finish on it.

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Now just imagine you're cutting into that lime. You can smell the juice coming out. You know that it’s sour.

Most people will find by now that they’ve got more saliva in their mouth because they’re thinking about how the lime smells and tastes. Your brain doesn’t know what’s real and what’s not. There’s no lime, but your brain is interpreting signals as if there’s really a lime in your hand.

Take a look at the four areas we’ve talked about: Health, Relationships, Livelihood and Finance. If there’s an area you’d like to improve, then visualise for a few minutes the perfect scenario for that area.

If one of your relationships could be better, envision the ideal scenario for having a flawless relationship with that person. Really get into how that would feel. What smells would be around you? What situation would you be in? What would it look like? Really try to put yourself in that position.

The idea is to try to trick your brain into thinking you’re really in that situation (just like you did with the lime). Then the task is to write down the good feelings that result from that. It might be that you get a warm, fuzzy feeling in your tummy. Maybe your heart starts to beat more quickly or a smile comes on your face. Just note that on your paper.

As we move forward with more articles in the Brand Builders TV series, keep those visualisations and feelings in mind, so we can start to look at strategies to put you in better-feeling situations, to start moving up in life and to open up and come to terms with that grief and loss. Then you can deal with it, accept it, progress up the emotional scale...and yes, start to move from grief to gratitude.

More on the Impact of Grief

Wow! How about all that useful information from Brand Builder Philippa Bennett? I have learnt so much, and I trust that you have as well.

This is the end of the article series attached to Philippa’s first episode on Brand Builders TV, but many more will follow. Subscribe to the Brand Builders YouTube channel to view all of them. And Like and Follow the Brand Builders TV Facebook page for notifications about future episodes, where you can participate live!

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Until our paths cross again, remember that the impact of grief is significant, but it doesn’t have to steal your joy.

Find Happiness in Spite of Grief, with Philippa Bennett

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Hello and welcome back to this series on moving from grief to gratitude. In the first article, Surviving Grief, Philippa shared with us her heart-wrenching story of the day she learnt her father had committed suicide. And now, we’re moving forward with Philippa as she teaches us how to find happiness in spite of grief.

We at the Brand Builders Club know that people like to absorb information in a variety of ways. That’s why we invite you to view the entire Brand Builders TV episode, From Grief to Gratitude with Philippa Bennett below, or read on for the second part of the series.

Time to learn it, model it and get shit done. Let’s keep going!

Who is Philippa Bennett?

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Philippa Bennett has helped many people to find happiness every day, in spite of the traumatic events and grief that threaten to take away their joy. Her practice has evolved to focus on mentoring metal music lovers; however, the grief portion of her teachings is still valid and necessary.

As a well-being therapist and homeopath, she has worked primarily with business owners and professionals who wish to unburden themselves from the grief that’s been clouding their happiness. She’s used her own journey through grief (resulting from her father’s suicide) to connect with her patients and help them see that there is hope.

I encourage you to subscribe to Philippa’s podcast, The Mindfulness Moshpit. You will not be disappointed!

Now for more on grief, in Philippa's own words.

Describing Grief

Hello! It’s Philippa again, and I’m so glad you could join me.

I have a question for you:

How would you describe grief? What does grief mean to you?

There are a few general themes that usually come up: things like sadness, feeling upset, crying. It’s a really strange subject because it’s something we’re all going to go through in our lives, and it’s something we’ll all have to deal with. And yet, we don’t talk about it. It’s not something that people come forward with. It’s such an awful, dark feeling. Some would describe it as extreme sadness or uncontrollable crying.

For me, my black sludgy ball of grief would occasionally come up and vomit grief. That sounds awful, but it would come out of nowhere and come up and choke my throat.

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Often, grief spontaneously comes up. It could also be described as a dark and heavy weight. The colour black is often associated with grief.

Does it look like that for you?

Define Happiness

Now that you have a better idea of what your grief looks like, let’s see how you picture happiness.

Get a piece of paper and a pen so you can write down answers to the following questions. You will use your answers throughout this entire series.

1.  What Makes You Happy?

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This is a personal question. What are the things that make you happy in life? For me, it’s nature. If I’m in the city for too long, I need to get out into open spaces. Music is a huge part of my life. It takes me back to happy memories (and some not-so-happy memories), and it’s hugely important. Food makes me happy; tasting, smelling, preparing and eating it.

Now write down what makes YOU happy.

2.   Why Do Those Things Make You Happy?

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This can be a tricky question to answer. For me, it’s about how I feel. When I’m in nature, outside in the peace and quiet, my nervous system is calmed and stresses tend to float away.

How do you feel when you’re happy?

3. How Many of Those Things are Influenced by Other People?

When I finished school and went to college, I studied computer science. I have no regrets about that because it’s been very good for my life and career. But I actually wanted to stay at school and do A-levels (math, physics, French). My boyfriend at the time wanted me to go to college because he was a couple of years older, and he didn’t want me being at school among "kids." So I went to college to please him. I thought I was making myself happy by making him happy, but in hindsight, that really wasn’t the case.

So is there anything on your list simply because it makes someone else happy? Because it’s influenced by other people?

4. How Different Would Your List be if you Weren’t Influenced by Others?

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If you had no friends and family to worry about, or you simply didn’t care what they thought, would your list be different?

Have a think about that before moving on.

Grief Affects How you Find Happiness

So you’ve got these things that make you happy (and it could be anything, because this is as subjective as everyone is individual). But if grief is un-dealt-with and is still sitting there as that sludgy, toxic ball in your gut that hasn’t moved, that can hinder you from being able to fully enjoy those things on your list.

You might think yes, it makes me happy, but you’ve still got this feeling that’s not allowing you to fully enjoy life or go further into those things you enjoy doing. It’s always going to affect all (or many) aspects of your life.

Let’s go back to question #1, all about what makes you happy. In my work as a homeopath, I have discovered there are some general things that people really want in their lives, to improve and feel happier.

The first thing that comes up often is freedom. That’s important, and can mean many different things to different people.

The other thing that comes up in my practice is less pain. That can be mental pain, physical pain or feeling unwell (which is largely emotional).

Material and financial matters are also happiness concerns for people. Some may say that material things are not important in life, but I have a different opinion on that. You need money in this world. You can’t live without it. It doesn’t buy happiness, but it does help. If you have the money to do the things that nourish your soul, you can do them. So finance and material worth are things that come up in happiness plans.

Another thing I notice in my practice is inner peace. When I think of my patients who have gone through traumatic experiences—and my own traumatic experience—there’s always this chatter in the back of your head. It’s not loud, but it’s always nagging at you, and you can’t have inner peace. Quieting that chatter helps people to be happier.

Now I’m going to throw a spider in the works and say that grief, as a concept and as a trauma, in my humble opinion and with years of practice and working on myself, is something you can never really get over. That’s something that some people may not agree with, but I don’t think you can ever really get over grief, loss or trauma. It’s always going to be there and there’s going to be a certain amount of sadness about it. There will be negative feelings associated with it, but the goal should be to get to a level of acceptance and peace…not to make it go away. You will never make it un-happen.

You can come to better terms with your grief so you can have a better life.

Philippa is Helping you to Find Happiness, for a Better Life

How about that? Philippa is helping many people break through grief, and I hope you’ll stick with this series so you can reap those benefits, too.

We’ve all heard that you can be bitter or better. I think that applies here. We can stay in a state of awful grief, with bitterness about what has happened, or we can acknowledge it, accept it and move forward toward gratitude, happiness and pure joy.

There’s one more instalment in this particular series with Philippa, and you won’t want to miss it. In The Impact of Grief on Happiness, with Philippa Bennett, she’s going to help all of us improve the areas of our lives that are typically impacted by grief. She’s talking about health, finance, relationships and so much more. You will rate each one and learn to envision what you want so you can build your happiness in that area.

Philippa is part of the Brand Builders Club, and there are many, many more professionals sharing their life and business experience in the club. If you’re looking for a safe space where entrepreneurs gather for guidance, accountability and achievement, you’ll want to get a LITE Membership today. It’s more than affordable, with no commitment! See you in the club.