Have you been victimized? Are you a victim? Today, we’re going to answer the question, “What is a victim?” Licia Berry, The Guide to the Frontier Inside, is personally and professionally over-qualified to answer this query, and we are blessed enough to go along for that ride.
Join us for this, another Brand Builders TV article series, taken directly from Licia’s Brand Builders TV episode, I’m Not a Victim, I’m Victorious (Part One). In it, you will learn the answer to the question, “What is a victim?” and you will learn about the dangers that come with prolonging victim status.
Licia will also guide you through answering three pivotal questions about your life—questions designed to till a plot of fertile soil so you can plant your seeds of victory.
I hope you’re as excited as I am for this. Licia is an eloquent speaker (as you’ll see in the video below) with a background in education. She’ll have you on the edge of your seat, whether you choose to view the video or keep reading for part one of this intriguing three-part article series.
Let’s meet Licia Berry, and then we’ll dive right in!
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Meet Licia Berry
Licia Berry spent the first part of her life feeling disconnected. But then she found a way to heal and now helps others to feel connected to their blessings and lessons (or “blessons”). She is founder and president of Daughters of Earth Women’s Leadership Institute.
With a grounded, scientific approach, Licia utilizes her more than 25 years of education and training experience to help individuals feel connected and that they belong, as well as to express their unique selves. She is trained in psychology, family dynamics, systems theory, creative arts, neuroscience, quantum mechanics and shamanism.
Now let’s hear from Licia, in her own words, as she describes victimhood and begins to show us how it is, by definition, a temporary state.
Turning Pain into Your Prize
Hi, I’m Licia Berry and I’m so excited to be here with you. I am known as The Guide to the Frontier Inside.
I’ve known Sammy for a while, and I’m so excited for this wonderful new effort. In this series, I’m going to be introducing you to an orientation toward success fulfillment that will transform any challenge you have faced, are currently facing, will ever face…no matter what it may be. We will turn those challenges into rocket fuel for success.
This is about pain being turned into your prize. Accepting, claiming and embracing our pain changes it from suffering to blessings and lessons, or “blessons.”
2020 Has Been a 'Blesson'
2020 has been a year, hasn’t it? It has dragged out every little fear, belief, attachment, aversion…out of those dark corners of our minds and into harsh, bright light. We all know that from being on social media, don’t we?
Have you noticed how many business owners are actually thriving? While many business owners are suffering with the events of a challenging year? Some of them are transforming challenges into treasure—even enjoyment. Why is that? How is that possible?
Think about it. Every great invention, and every problem that’s been solved, is in response to some sort of suffering. This is true in business, too. The ability to respond to challenges is a resilience and an orientation that does not allow suffering to freeze, disorganize or depower us. But instead to organize, inspire and push us. Pain can be the greatest medicine.
This is most true in the realm of entrepreneurship. Our personal experiences shape and drive the businesses we create, as well as how we show up as leaders in our businesses.
How we respond to our challenges very much informs the success or failure of our entrepreneurship. What’s on the inside will come out (as every leader knows).
Entrepreneurship as an Initiation
Being an entrepreneur is an initiation—or a series of initiations. We are being tested every single day. Are we worthy? Do we show up? Do they like us? Do they like us enough to pay us? There are daily tests.
Being an entrepreneur tests almost every link of every chain of our being. It rattles the cage. We can be chugging along and a challenge shows up, and we’re only as strong as our weakest link.
In an environment or society where exposing that we have pain is interpreted as complaining, or where expressing sorrow is considered a weakness, we may be reluctant to proudly proclaim our pain as the source of our prowess. It’s the very fuel that feeds the fire of our desire to get out of bed every morning and change the world. This is the way through to victory.
An Answer to the Question, "What is a Victim?"
Let’s talk about the trigger word victim. Were you able to read the title of this Brand Builders TV episode without being triggered? It has become a significant trigger word in our society, so let’s take a look at it, full face-on.
When something happens to us that we have no power over, that means we’re a victim in that situation. In the moment of that hard thing happening, in which we are powerless, we are victimized by that circumstance.
Webster’s definition of victim is, “a person harmed, injured or killed as a result of a crime, accident or other event or action. One is acted on and usually adversely affected by a force or agent, subjected to oppression, hardship or mistreatment.”
Heavy stuff, right? And yet, look at what came to light in 2020, as a result of the stress and compression of the challenges during that time. We are seeing the state of being a victim everywhere. Inflamed emotions. Inflamed opinions. People are stirred up with feelings of being victimized.
Truly being a victim, by definition, is a temporary state in which one is powerless. Powerlessness is a requirement in the definition of being a victim.
We can look at several times throughout the course of history when groups and individuals have been victimized by others with force (weapons or power, for instance). In our modern world, right now, we can see that there are victims of sexism, racism, violence, homophobia, domestic and child abuse, sex trafficking, accidents, illness and family tragedies. There’s no shortage of challenging events that can happen in one’s life, and that have the potential to derail us. And perhaps, we have no power to control these situations.
But it seems that suffering is a condition of being alive. If you’re above the ground, living means that there will sometimes be pain. There’s hopefully lots of joy, but there’s also pain.
Again, it’s a condition of being alive. Physical, emotional and spiritual health can be deeply touched and impacted by those hard things in life.
What is a Victim? Are you a Victim?
I don’t know about you, but Licia’s explanation of victimhood really helped me to understand that it’s a temporary state. Many of us have been victims in our lifetimes; however, after it’s over we have a choice. We can choose to exist in a state of victimhood, or we can rise up, victorious. We can use that pain to unveil our prize. We can use those blessons to motivate us to help others and create ripples that will change the world.
We can’t stop here! It’s time to move on to article number two in the series, I am a Victim no More, with Licia Berry. In it, Licia is going to talk about being triggered by the word victim, facing and moving past pain, and even compost. Yes, that’s right—compost! And then, it will be on to part three, Turn Emotional Pain into Your Prize. In it, Licia will talk about pain being a part of you (and turning it into gold), as well as figuring out what's wasting your time.
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